“What a Woman” 
 

Our history books are filled with great women with tremendous influence who made an impact on their generations: women like Florence Nightingale, Mother Teresa, Madame Curie, Clara Barton, Helen Keller, Joan of Arc, Rosa Parks, Margaret Thatcher, and Golda Meir, to name only a few.  There are women who have been ministers of the Gospel, athletes, musical greats, leaders of governments, and military heroes who stand out continuously throughout the pages of history.  I recently read the story of Susanna Wesley, mother of Charles and John Wesley, the founders of the Methodists, great women of perseverance, dignity, and fortitude, strength of character.        

When we open our Bible we find in it great women who stand out and make a difference in their generations: women like Eve, Sarah, Jochebed (mother of Moses), Hannah, Abigail, Deborah, Ruth, Elizabeth and Mary, Martha and Mary, Eunice and Lois, Priscilla, Lydia, Phoebe.  Each of these women of the Bible played a major part in God’s plan and left a mark on the world. 

One of these remarkable women of the Bible is, of course, Esther.  Esther, a Jew, whose Mom and Dad had passed away, whose cousin, Mordecai, had taken her in and raised her as his daughter.  The Jews were in captivity to the Persian Empire at this time.  The king had returned from war, defeated, lonely, and in need of affection and long-term companionship.  His counselors advised him, “Let’s find every possible available, beautiful young woman in the Persian kingdom and let’s bring them here and let you take your pick.”  Let’s have a beauty contest and see who wins. 

Est 2:8

When the king's order had been publicly posted, many young girls were brought to the palace complex of Susa and given over to Hegai who was overseer of the women. Esther was among them.  

Esther was a Jew.  Esther was taken (I believe by force) to the king’s palace to participate in this context.  Josephus says that as many as 400 women were chosen to compete.  Can you just imagine the fierce competition between the ladies that took place?   

Esther had something that the other ladies did not have: inner strength and godly dignity. 

5 characteristics of Esther 
 

  1. Esther exhibited a grace-filled charm and elegance.
 

Est 2:9

“Hegai liked Esther and took a special interest in her. Right off he started her beauty treatments, ordered special food, assigned her seven personal maids from the palace, and put her and her maids in the best rooms in the harem.” 

Literally, “She lifted up grace before his face.”  Though she was brought to the harem and participated in these things reluctantly, Esther did not display a sour attitude.  I believe she sensed the hand of God in all this.  Esther modeled grace in a tough situation. 

  1. Esther exhibited an unusual restraint and control.
 

Est 2:10

“Esther didn't say anything about her family and racial background because Mordecai had told her not to.”  

Esther could keep a secret.  Verbal restraint is fast becoming a forgotten virtue.  Thanks to tell-all tabloids and hide-nothing television talk shows, nothing is restrained.  Learn to keep confidences, especially the confidences of your husband, your family, and your friends.  Come to be known for keeping secrets!  It is part of having character marked by strength and dignity. 

  1. Esther sustained a continually teachable spirit.
 

Est 2:20

“All this time, Esther had kept her family background and race a secret as Mordecai had ordered; Esther still did what Mordecai told her, just as when she was being raised by him.” 

Even becoming a finalist in this frenzied competition, or later, becoming queen, did not cause Esther to flaunt her independence and strut her stuff.  Not this lady!  This lovely, dignified, wise woman was still willing to listen and learn.   

“Education is going from an unconscious to conscious awareness of one’s ignorance,.” 

  1. Esther exhibited an unselfish modesty and authenticity.
 

Est 2:12-15

“Each girl's turn came to go in to King Xerxes after she had completed the twelve months of prescribed beauty treatments — six months' treatment with oil of myrrh followed by six months with perfumes and various cosmetics.  When it was time for the girl to go to the king, she was given whatever she wanted to take with her when she left the harem for the king's quarters.  She would go there in the evening; in the morning she would return to a second harem overseen by Shaashgaz, the king's eunuch in charge of the concubines. She never again went back to the king unless the king took a special liking to her and asked for her by name.  When it was Esther's turn to go to the king (Esther the daughter of Abihail the uncle of Mordecai, who had adopted her as his daughter), she asked for nothing other than what Hegai, the king's eunuch in charge of the harem, had recommended. Esther, just as she was, won the admiration of everyone who saw her.” 

Think of it: no job, no responsibility, no cooking, no clean-up, no washing, no ironing, no errands, no budget-watching, no holding back in any area.  Imagine!  Pampered and indulged, in this self-centered harem of Persia, all of the emphasis rests upon her becoming a woman of greater physical beauty.  Jewelry, clothing, perfumes, cosmetics, whatever she wishes are hers.  The only thing on everyone’s mind is to win the contest—to please the king and gain his favor. 

She does not succumb to the temptation around her—the superficiality, the selfishness, the seduction, the self-centeredness.   

In 1977 a survey was done.  The percentages may have changed a bit from then:

15% of the women tinted their hair; 22% wore false eyelashes; 38% sometimes wore wigs or hairpieces; 80% wore rouge or some kind of facial cosmetics; 93% used nail polish; 98% wore some kind of eye makeup, and 100% voted in favor of a resolution condemning any kind of false packaging. 

I believe that Esther went into the king unafraid because she had no driving ambition to be queen.  I believe she just wanted to go back to her home to Mordecai.  But I also believe that the greater driving faith of Esther was also a burning desire to please the king of kings, to obey Jehovah.  I believe she knew the hand of God was on her life and her life did not revolve around physical appearance or making an earthly king happy.  She knew from whence she came, who she was, and in whose hands her life rested.  God’s pleasure, God’s plan, God’s purpose is what she wished for.   

5.  Esther displayed a humble respect for authority. 

Esther continued to obey the voice and instruction of Mordecai.  Even after being chosen as the queen and exalted to such a high position in the vast Persian empire, she remained humble and respectful of authority. 

Can women of today exhibit all these qualities?  It can happen.  Yes!  God does not mock us by requiring things of us which we cannot obtain and which we cannot obey.  God does not give me strength to overcome temptation and not make available to you that same source of strength.  God is no respecter of persons!  There are no unreachable challenges in the Christian life that you cannot overcome.  You can conquer!  You can be delivered!  You can overcome!   

However, you cannot become a great woman of God by taking your cues from the world.  That will only bring defeat and frustration.  You, as an individual, have your own pressures, your own difficulties, your own unique circumstances, but God offers ways to handle them and become His special person He has designed for you.   

The question is how? 

First, ASK GOD!  Ask God to cultivate character within you!  Ask Him to give you a discontent for the superficial and a deeper desire for the spiritual.  Make yourself available to His strength, His reproofs.  Seek His counsel for the things you lack.  Allow Him to help you set reasonable goals.  Record them in your journal so you will have a written account of your prayer to Him.   

Place more emphasis on what is happening deep within your heart and less emphasis on the externals, the superficial, the temporary. 

Second, TRUST GOD!  Trust Him to control the circumstances around you.  Don’t wait for your circumstances to become perfect (they never will be).   

You ladies are special.  You are unique.  Much to the false claims of men, we, as men, cannot live without you.  You are our strength.  Mothers to their children, wives to their husbands, and made by God to strengthen the household.   

Ladies, mothers, women of faith—God has given you special abilities often not found in men: 

  1. Special intuition
  2. Endurance to pain
  3. Unique responsiveness.  Men are far more closed—closed toward God and closed toward one another.  Women have an openness, a warmth, a responsiveness to the things of God.  Women have a desire to grow, to react, to feel, to show affection toward the things of God that is not found in the average man.
  4. Quality of vulnerability.  Most women are less afraid than men to tell the truth about their lives.  Most of the people who are the first to seek counsel are women.  Men don’t want to talk about the problem.  Women are willing to ask for help. 
 

Qualities that women, mothers have: 

Pro 11:16

A gracious woman attains honor. 

Pro 12:4

An excellent wife is the crown of her husband. 

Pro 18:22

He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord. 

Pro 19:14

House and wealth are an inheritance from fathers.

But a prudent wife is from the Lord. 

Husbands and children alike: 

Have you told your wife/mother that she is a gift from God to you? 

Husbands, do you help your wife to reach her long-term goals? 

Children, are you giving the honor and respect you should to your Mom? 

How much comfort to your wife, to your mother, or the mother of your children do you give in her times of need? 

Wives and mothers, we salute you.  We bless you in Jesus’name.